Weight loss and getting healthy isn't just about your body. It's about everything in your life...especially your brain (and yes I know it's part of the body!). Things have to shift in your brain to make this process work. Let's explore one thing that can affect this shift...what do you do when a seemingly great friend turns out to a) not be the person you thought they were, b) not bring anything positive into your life, or c) all of the above? Now, note, I said friends. Family is a whole different story.What is the acceptable way to deal with these situations? I personally have moved and not provided a forwarding address. It's a totally passive way of dealing with it. That particular friend was never mean or aggressive towards me...rather it was all about her, never about me. And, we all know, it's about me! But seriously, I had discussed, or at least thought I had discussed how I felt about the friendship. Apparently, she didn't get it. So in keeping with simplifying my life, I decided not to maintain that friendship.
How many people can you maintain close friendships with? Really. Think about that one for a minute. You can "know" a lot of people but how much energy can you or are you willing to expend maintaining close personal friendships? And before you freak out, realize that it's okay not to be best buds with everyone you meet.
If people aren't bringing joy into your life, then don't have them in your life. And, I don't mean they can't share their problems with you, or that you can't share your problems with them. I mean, do they give you the love and support that you give them. Or, is it one-sided?
It's okay to move on. If you're looking for those things that make your life more full and enriched, that friend is probably not the right one for you. Sometimes the simple life just isn't that simple!
People who bring nothing into my life but problems/drama/etc very quickly find out that they are no longer part of my life. I used to be really passive about this kind of stuff, but after going through a rash of two "best friends" who turned on me for no reason other than they felt I was stealing their spotlights in some way, I've stopped being passive and will forcibly evict someone from my life if I have to.
ReplyDeleteSure, its nice to have lots of friends and people to talk to / joke around with. But when its just a one-sided relationship, it's not worth the effort you have to put into it.